Date the Parents

I just got back to my desk after lunch with one of my newlywed coworkers.  The entire 30 minutes was spent ranting and raving about how much she hates her in-laws.  

Which brings me to this.

How important is your signif’s parents?  At what point in the relationship do their shenanigans become a deal breaker?

In hindsight, I blame my ex’s parentals on some of our downfall.  His male role models set the stage for the dbag he grew up to be.  The way his own father spoke to his mother very much mimicked the way he liked to talk to me (hence why he got the ax).   

hows THAT for good parenting?

 For almost 20 years, my ex's mom and dad did not speak to each other or show up to the same parties.  They liked to talk sh*t about each other and act like legit 4 year olds.  At his college graduation, his mom sat on one side of the arena, his dad on the other.  After, we took pictures with his mom on one side of campus and with his dad on the other.  If we had gotten married, I can’t IMAGINE what would have happened if they had to sit next to each other and be in the same room for a couple of hours.  

Moving forward, I’ve decided I’m dating the guys parents too.  If from the gate I don’t like them, their relationship, or their parenting tactics, they’re OUT.  I understand we all have our "crazy parents" stories.  Lord knows if I was judged based on my parents that NO ONE in their right mind would date me.  But some people grow up and learn from their parents mistakes, and others don't.  My eyes will be wide open for those red flags, because I’m def not dealing with the mama drama down the road.