I’m a very independent kind of gal and I’ve been taking care of myself for just about as long as I can remember. My parents never had the money so I started working as soon as I could legally get a workers permit and I haven’t looked back. That includes every book for college, every bill, every gallon of gas, every every thing.
When you’ve been taking care of yourself for so long, how do you make the transition to “we” instead of “me”? I don’t EVER want to be the wife that doesn’t know when or how the bills are paid. I don’t want to EVERRRRRR be the wife that sticks out my hand for my monthly allowance. And I NEEEVVVVEERR EVVEERRR want to be the wife whose husband leaves her and she has no way or knowledge of how to take care of herself sans-man.
Shoot me. This marriage stuff sounds more ridiculous as the days go by. I LOVE my fiancé but I HATE the thought of losing my independence. I know there HAS to be a happy medium – lots of couples are happy, right?
I had other married couples as role-models growing up in addition to my unhappy parents. I virtually LIVED with my 3 best friends from 5-18 years old. Friend1s parents were old (she was adopted) and never spoke to each other. One slept upstairs and other slept downstairs. Winning relationship all the way. Who cares if you’ve been married 50 years if you don’t speak? Big woop.
Friend3s parents were very in love. They had been together FOREVER, loved Friend3 with all their heart and I was ready to pack my bags, forge my birth certificate and be their daughter. But, uh, mommy didn’t work – only daddy did and that scenario worked for them. Mom stuck out her hand, dad provided, and they lived happily ever after. ALSO – not my cup of tea. I went to college to have a career, not to get a husband.
Why does marriage sound so hard? And why do I have to “be a girl” for this work? AND WHAT DOES THAT EVEN MEAN?!!
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